If death is inevitable, then why are we so scared of it??..

Hi people! How’re you?! I really hope you’re taking care of yourself and you’re being kind to yourself despite whatever you’re going through in your life. I really hope so..

So, how’s Bee doing? She’s fine. She’s still so busy with school and some different extracurricular activities. Despite it all, God is still taking care of her and He’s still being so good to her; so she’s thriving.

Okay, okay, let’s start with today’s post already!

First let me define inevitable for you. According to the Oxford Dictionary, inevitable means “certain to happen; unavoidable.” I think this is pretty clear, right..

So, death is unavoidable. We cannot avoid death because at some point in our lives, we will die. We would leave Earth and we will be gone away from here.

The question now is that if death cannot be avoided, then why are we so so scared of it??

I really think that we humans put so much effort into building our lives here on Earth, that the topic of death becomes noise to our ears that hate noise. We spend our whole life chasing the bag and trying to build a good life for ourselves here on Earth. Due to the amount of time we use to chase after a good life, we don’t want our efforts to be wasted. We don’t want to just disappear from here and leave behind all we have worked so hard for.

Or we can look at it from another perspective. Maybe people are so scared of dying because they are enjoying life too much. We are diehard fans of enjoyment that feel like our lives would be empty without all the fun and good stuff of life. We just don’t want to be gone and miss out on all the fun. We want to remain here on Earth and keep enjoying and keep exploring all that Earth has to offer. We don’t want to leave the good life..

Actually, there’s another perspective.. Maybe we are so scared of dying because of all the relationships that we’ve either built or just gotten roped in here on Earth. We don’t want our loved ones to experience the feeling of loss, and to get bitten by the blood-sucking fangs of pain. We want to stay here forever with the people we love because they just mean too much to us and we also mean too much to them. Yeah, love and relationships are reasonable reasons to not want to get off Earth.

There are honestly too many perspectives to look at it from, and no matter what kind or how many perspectives you look at it from, on Earth, there are people who want to die so bad and people who want to stay alive so bad. I feel like as a society, we don’t acknowledge enough the people of this society who think that getting off Earth is the best thing they can do for themselves. I mean I get it because it’s not so easy to see deep into everyone’s minds and see exactly why they think the way they think. Hmm

Dying is viewed as a sacred topic in our society but when people intentionally die, is it still something sacred?! Death is a topic that we should really address more often because if it was talked about more often, then maybe, just maybe the suicide rate would go down by a lot. A lot of us fail to realize that death can be an option or a choice, and that’s where most of us are faulty. We treat people badly, we say mean stuff to them, we are not kind, we don’t help if we have the ability to, and all of these things just highlight the fact that death can be an option or a choice. Somebody can choose to die because of how people treat them, and this is one of the biggest reasons why some people choose death.

Some people don’t see death as inevitable, they see it as a friend they can call on anytime. I know it’s really really sad but it’s true. So much stuff go on in our heads and minds and these stuff can drive us crazy and make us see death as a choice rather than something that we can’t avoid as humans. It’s a very complex topic..

Okay, so I am afraid of death?? I don’t think I am, really; I believe that anything that happens is God’s will. So, there’s really nothing to be scared of, for me, because I know it can happen anytime whenever God thinks it’s right . Maybe I also feel this way because I don’t have very deep relationships yet but I don’t know.

In all, death is a topic that we, as a society need to acknowledge more but please don’t let death or the fear of death or the thought of death stop you from living your life, and chasing your dreams, of course in a pure and godly manner.

Although, death is inevitable, it is totally understandable and human to be very scared of it.. I just pray that God will continue to keep us all safe and keep protecting us in Jesus name. Amen!

You can leave a comment if you want; maybe you have a question or just a thought. Bye!

I just really like and appreciate this photo..bye people 🙃

Love you all always 🤗🤗

Does absence make the heart grow fonder or does it make the heart more distant??..

Currently I’m a little bit sleepy and so so cold but I had to write this post for today. I didn’t post at all last week and I felt so bad. Yeah.. Don’t worry, I’m writing a post explaining why I didn’t post soon.🙃🤍

Me right now😆

Let’s move on now..

Hi y’all:) How are you doing?? I really hope you are doing fine.. If you’re not, I pray that you get better very soon by God’s grace!

So, for me, how am I doing?? Honestly, I am good, although I have been pretty busy. I’ve been busy with school, and many different activities. I can’t complain though because I chose to do all those activities. Anyway, let’s get into what today’s post is about..

So, I was about 11 years old when I first heard the phrase, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, and I didn’t read much into it then. I learned that what this phrase basically means is that when you leave someone for some time or someone leaves you for some time or even forever, their absence makes you think about them more; hence, why the heart is growing fonder because you’re realizing how much you like them more and all. Honestly, I truly can’t believe I was given this lie and I gladly swallowed it down my throat.

Okay okay, I know I’m exaggerating when I call it a lie because it’s not totally false; it just seems like something your parents will tell you because they don’t want you to find the whole truth about something. I guess we can call it a form of deceit on its own. Yeah sadly..

As I grew up and moved away from my “friends” in Nigeria, that phrase became very questionable. This is because absence didn’t make my own heart grow fonder, it made it more distant. Yes, really!

After being away from the people I grew up with since I was very little for a little over 3 years, I realized that my heart didn’t grow any fonder, it actually grew distant. Our relationship was breaking apart piece by piece because of that absence and now, when I have conversations with this people, it feels like we are strangers to each other. I don’t know, maybe it’s the type of person that I am that’s causing my own absence to cause distance.

I feel like I’ve grown into this type of person that loves to be alone and maybe just maybe, this is what is making my heart grow distant. Let’s be clear, this isn’t just me with one person, it’s me with every person I left in Nigeria; our relationship has just been severed brutally and it just keeps me up at night wondering why as kids, we are never really told the whole truth of the matter.

Maybe our parents and teachers are scared of us being hurt as kids and that’s why they feed us with “absence makes the heart grow fonder”; they don’t want us to be exposed to the harsh reality of the world from a young age. Honestly, I get it but the thing is that whatever we don’t learn when we are little just comes back in the future when we are all grown up and then we have to figure it out ourselves and maybe with the help of other people. My point is just that, kids shouldn’t be lied to, don’t tell them that absence will make the heart grow fonder and fail to tell them that absence can also make the heart grow distant.

I know you can be reading this post and be shaking your head, disagreeing so strongly but just remember that it’s all perspective. I view the world more deeply(you should know this if you didn’t already know).

Anyway, that’s all for today! Don’t forget to leave a comment if you want to share your thoughts and opinions; also leave a comment if you have any questions. Bye y’all🤗

I saw this picture and I loved it immediately. I hope it brings you calmness like it did me.

Love you all always🤗🤗