Does absence make the heart grow fonder or does it make the heart more distant??..

Currently I’m a little bit sleepy and so so cold but I had to write this post for today. I didn’t post at all last week and I felt so bad. Yeah.. Don’t worry, I’m writing a post explaining why I didn’t post soon.🙃🤍

Me right now😆

Let’s move on now..

Hi y’all:) How are you doing?? I really hope you are doing fine.. If you’re not, I pray that you get better very soon by God’s grace!

So, for me, how am I doing?? Honestly, I am good, although I have been pretty busy. I’ve been busy with school, and many different activities. I can’t complain though because I chose to do all those activities. Anyway, let’s get into what today’s post is about..

So, I was about 11 years old when I first heard the phrase, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, and I didn’t read much into it then. I learned that what this phrase basically means is that when you leave someone for some time or someone leaves you for some time or even forever, their absence makes you think about them more; hence, why the heart is growing fonder because you’re realizing how much you like them more and all. Honestly, I truly can’t believe I was given this lie and I gladly swallowed it down my throat.

Okay okay, I know I’m exaggerating when I call it a lie because it’s not totally false; it just seems like something your parents will tell you because they don’t want you to find the whole truth about something. I guess we can call it a form of deceit on its own. Yeah sadly..

As I grew up and moved away from my “friends” in Nigeria, that phrase became very questionable. This is because absence didn’t make my own heart grow fonder, it made it more distant. Yes, really!

After being away from the people I grew up with since I was very little for a little over 3 years, I realized that my heart didn’t grow any fonder, it actually grew distant. Our relationship was breaking apart piece by piece because of that absence and now, when I have conversations with this people, it feels like we are strangers to each other. I don’t know, maybe it’s the type of person that I am that’s causing my own absence to cause distance.

I feel like I’ve grown into this type of person that loves to be alone and maybe just maybe, this is what is making my heart grow distant. Let’s be clear, this isn’t just me with one person, it’s me with every person I left in Nigeria; our relationship has just been severed brutally and it just keeps me up at night wondering why as kids, we are never really told the whole truth of the matter.

Maybe our parents and teachers are scared of us being hurt as kids and that’s why they feed us with “absence makes the heart grow fonder”; they don’t want us to be exposed to the harsh reality of the world from a young age. Honestly, I get it but the thing is that whatever we don’t learn when we are little just comes back in the future when we are all grown up and then we have to figure it out ourselves and maybe with the help of other people. My point is just that, kids shouldn’t be lied to, don’t tell them that absence will make the heart grow fonder and fail to tell them that absence can also make the heart grow distant.

I know you can be reading this post and be shaking your head, disagreeing so strongly but just remember that it’s all perspective. I view the world more deeply(you should know this if you didn’t already know).

Anyway, that’s all for today! Don’t forget to leave a comment if you want to share your thoughts and opinions; also leave a comment if you have any questions. Bye y’all🤗

I saw this picture and I loved it immediately. I hope it brings you calmness like it did me.

Love you all always🤗🤗

My experience with relationships-what I also think about relationships…

Hi y’all. I really hope y’all are doing fine. Like I said in the blogpost before this, school already started for me. It has been okay so far. I am being really positive about it and I am just putting it all in God’s hands. An advice for y’all is that you should always try to be positive with everything and do not forget to have complete faith in God. Anyways, today’s post is filled with so much gist. So, just keep reading!

I have actually been thinking a lot about relationships, especially now that almost everyone around me is involved in a relationship. Since it has been on my mind a lot, I made a podcast episode about it, and now I am getting deeper about it here on my blog. By the way, if you’ve not yet listened to that episode on my podcast and you will like to listen, go to anchor.fm/ctamwithbee

First, let me just share my experience with the whole dating/relationship thing. I really have never dated anyone and I don’t plan on doing that anytime soon. Well, I was asked out once by this guy but I said no. Honestly, thank God for my life because if not for God, I would have said yes and just gotten into a mess. I really don’t joke with this relationship thing, although I feel like a lot of people do. I feel like a lot of people don’t really understand what a relationship is and they just jump into it.

A relationship isn’t a bad thing but I think that a lot of people get into it at the wrong time. For me, I believe that getting into something at the wrong time would lead to that thing not ending well. I really am not an expert on this whole relationship thing by the way, so, I don’t really know a lot. For me, I also think that a lot of people get into relationships due to peer pressure. They see their friends getting into relationships, and then they get pressured to get into a relationship as well. People really need to realize that God’s timing is the best, so it is important to wait on God before getting into anything or before making any decisions.

Lately, I have been feeling pressured regarding this whole relationship thing but God is telling me to be patient. Also, I have so many other important things now that need a lot of my focus and attention. I know my priorities, so I am being really careful, mindful, and patient. The lesson from today’s blogpost is patience and consulting God before making any decisions.

A lot of people fail to be patient and then they get into something that ends up being disastrous. Like I said in my podcast episode about relationships, “you know when you are ready and when you are not ready”. A lot of people are not ready at all, yet they are venturing into a romantic relationship. Also, always ask God before making any decisions. I am pretty sure most of the people rushing into romantic relationships now did not ask God first. Please remember to always put God first in everything!! I pray that God guides us and gives us the spirit of patience in Jesus name. Amen!

So, in case you are unaware, the ‘relationship’ I am talking about in this blogpost is romantic relationships. Anyway, please leave a comment on your opinion on relationships or maybe you can just drop relationship advice in the comment; anything that relates to today’s post. Don’t be scared or shy to drop a comment, this is a judgment-free zone.

That’s all for today. Bye y’all:)

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I almost forgot to drop a picture today. So here it is:) Bye!