Why do I like talking about controversial issues so much?

Wawu!! I know I have been gone for a while now. I am really really sorry to my faithful readers. I had to clear my head and reconstruct my blog because I want you all to see premium content while still being myself( I hope you understand). Anyway, I have made some nice changes to this blog and that means more amazing content coming your way. Y’all better be prepared!!

Okay, enough of the unnecessary talk. Let me not waste your time too much and just go ahead into what you are going to be reading about today.

If you follow me on Instagram, see my status posts on WhatsApp, listen to my podcast or just know me personally, you should know that I am very very passionate about speaking up on every issue that is going on in our society that spikes up controversy. We all know that they are so many topics in our society that really deserve attention and we all know that everyone has their own opinions on all these topics. We also know that they are some people who are lost amidst everything and they do not even understand these topics or know what to think of them, that is where I come in. I mean, you can think of me as an educator or maybe a teacher or maybe an activist or maybe a public speaker or maybe a talkative or maybe someone with a lot of sense. Whatever rocks your boat!

Okay, so I am someone that loves to speak up. Whenever I see or hear something that I think is morally wrong, I do not hesitate to talk about it. Also, if I watch a movie or read a book and it talks about some things that are part of our society and I think they are really wrong, I talk about them or I make a post relating to those things on one of my many social media platforms. Just in case you have been wondering all these while, the main reason why I talk about these issues or topics is to bring awareness to them. If I do not play my part and talk about these things, how will people know about these things and learn?? Honestly, I think that it is really important to speak up about things because you do not know who needs to hear it or needs to learn about that thing.

Another thing is that I think a lot of people have been brainwashed by this society we live in. There are so many traditions and cultural rules that are very very flawed but people do not know that and they keep believing these things. So many people have been brainwashed by their culture and traditions to think that doing certain things is okay but due to the evolution of the world, these things are extremely wrong now. Some of the topics that culture/tradition/society has brainwashed people on are Rape, Toxic Masculinity, Domestic Violence, Mental Health Issues, Marriage, Abuse, Gender Equality, Toxic Parenting, amongst many others.

The reason for my passion and my general goal is to spread awareness to as many people as I can and to debunk a lot of these topics that people have been brainwashed on. Also, my goal is to help people see how the world has evolved and to understand that certain things are just not okay anymore. I really really hope that people gain something or learn something whenever I talk about these controversial topics/issues because my main goal is to educate everyone. If you really want to be educated on a lot of controversial issues/topics, you can check out my podcast https://anchor.fm/ctamwithbee

This is what my podcast looks like, by the way.

Lastly, let me just tell you about where and how “age” comes into all of this. So, the thing is that older people tend to look down on the younger ones because they think that the young ones probably know little compared to them. This is actually very wrong because your age does not matter in speaking up about these issues and topics. Due to your young age, it does not mean that you lack sense or reasoning. Do not let anybody look down on you because you are young. Greta Thunberg is just 17 years old and she speaks up about the things that she is very passionate about that even older people do not have the courage to do. Honestly, I do not care that I am young and my age is never going to stop me from talking about controversial issues and topics. Do not be discouraged by your age, just do your thing and speak up about whatever you feel so much passion for.

By the way, if you are confused about what the “WAWU” that I used in the beginning means, it literally just means WOW. So, I hope you are wowed by this post.(#don’tleavemešŸ˜‚)

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Are you aware of Tribalism??

So, what is Tribalism?

According to the Oxford Dictionary, tribalism is the behavior and attitudes that stem from strong loyalty to one’s own tribe or social group. In layman’s term, tribalism is literally being too loyal to your own tribe to the extent you would do anything to protect your tribe and you would not want to associate with other tribes.

Tribalism in Africa

Tribalism is a really really big deal in Africa because of all our traditions and rules. Africans really take their traditions very seriously and they can be overly loyal to their tribe, religion and whatever they believe in. Culture and tribe shaped Africa and that is why most of our old cultures and traditions are still very prominent today. Although it is sad to see discrimination caused by someone being from a different tribe, it is still something most Africans do till today.

This is literally how much tribalism has become very big of a deal in Africa and how it’s ruining the continent country by country.

A very good example of tribalism is seen in the movie, “The Wedding Party” which was filmed and produced in Nigeria. In this movie, Dozie and Dunni fell in love and they were so ready to get married, infact they had it in mind that they would get married. However, Dozie’s family were Igbo while Dunni’s family were Yoruba. Due to this tribe difference, Dozie’s mum was really against the marriage because she did not want to associate with the Yorubas. She was very unsupportive of the relationship because she wanted Dozie to marry an Igbo woman. This just shows that some people are so ready to stand by their tribe, even if that tribe is what stands in the way of happiness for some people.

It is actually very sad that you would be in love with someone or you would have a very deep connection with someone but because you love your tribe so much, you would throw away your happiness for it. A lot of people have even lost their soulmates, all in the name of “I cannot marry a Yoruba woman or I cannot marry an Igbo man”. I understand that we all have our preferences but if we think deeply enough, we would see that those preferences were shaped by tribalism.

Also, tribalism has caused major fights in Africa. There are about 3000 tribes in Africa. Yearly, there are news of tribal clashes everywhere. Even daily, there is a country in Africa where people are being killed and destroyed because of the tribe they were born into. A lot of people have lost their lives, families and belongings because of tribalism.

There are a lot of disagreements in politics too because someone is from one tribe and they do not want a member of that tribe to be in control of power. There are several stereotypes attached to different tribes by people of other tribes. For example, a stereotype attached to Igbo people by other tribes is that Igbo people would do anything to get money. A stereotype attached to Yoruba people is that they are very deceitful. All these stereoypes stem from prejudice by people of other tribes.

What can we do to start getting rid of Tribalism little by little?

To be honest, I think that everybody still needs to learn how to be very accepting of others. Apart from tribalism, there are racism and fanaticism, which are also caused by being too loyal to something or having very strong beliefs about something to the extent that you would literally hate on people who do not support that thing. We are in the 21st century and it really should not matter if somebody shares the same beliefs as you or not and that should not be a reason to like them or not. You might not agree with someone else’s beliefs but that does not mean that you should be wicked to them or even hate on them. Nobody chooses the tribe that they were born into, they were simply just born into that tribe. You should really not be hating on people for things that they have no control over.

Have you had any experiences with Tribalism? What are your thoughts on Tribalism? Feel free to leave a comment below!

What I went through moving from Nigeria to America

I moved to America in 2017 and that was when everything changed. I would not say that I regret that decision but it was not the best decision I made either. Now that I am in America, I have realized that America is not really my happy place. To be honest, I only like America because of the countless number of opportunities available to teenagers.

So what was life like before moving to America?

Life before America was amazing. I was very very happy and I was very social. I had a lot of friends and I was somewhat popular in school. I was a newscaster for the school’s radio. I went for debate competitions. I went for church competitions. I was very much out there. I was even chosen to be on a bridal train a couple of times. In short, life was very easy for me then. I was doing so well with school and life in general. I had so much fun with my friends and family.

On Sundays, after church, my family and I went out a lot. Most times, we went to different restaurants to eat and take pictures. Sometimes, we looked for new amusement parks and we went there. Our favorite place to go was Olusegun Obasanjo Presidential Library(OOPL) which had several parts to it, like a zoo, a library, different eatries, a swimming pool and many more. We stayed there till it was late and we just had so much fun together.

Also, holidays were super amazing. During Christian holidays, we went out to visit all my parents’ friends. We also went to the houses of other members of our family. However, during Muslim holidays, we hosted parties at our house because my father is Muslim. We hired caterers to help with the cooking because we usually had a large number of people come to our house then. Some of my friends come to our house and it was really really exciting.

Life after moving to America

After I moved, everything became so different. My social life went downwards. I no longer had a lot of friends and I was no longer interested in making friends. I lost my confidence and I became so shy. America is so different from Nigeria and I was so confused about a lot of things. I was very unfamiliar with the food and “culture” in America.

When I started school in America, I went through a lot with the teachers, the students and the way of teaching. I started in 8th grade and it was not really a good experience for me because there were just two other black people in my grade. There was no one to relate to and there was no one to befriend because I was just so different from the rest of them. The way I looked was different. The way I spoke was different. The way I dressed was so different too. In short, everything about me was so different from the other kids in school. I could not mingle with the other kids because of our differences and I lost my confidence because I thought that the kids in America were so much better than me regarding their looks and style.

How is life now after living in America for three years?

Life in America now is pretty great, even though sometimes I still wish that I had just stayed back in Nigeria. I am not very very happy yet but I am getting there. My confidence is back now and I go for school competitions and school outings. I am even a member of the student government in my school. I have also gotten a hang of the American accent and I can speak it quite fluently now(*inserts laugh emoji). I am still not interested in making friends because over the years that I have been in America, I have learned that it is okay to be alone so that you can look after your inner peace and it is okay to just have only one or two friends.

I am really thankful to God for bringing me to America because a lot of people want to be in America but they just cannot afford it. I am really thankful to my parents too for being nice people and for being good parents. Lastly, I am also thankful to America for all the opportunities that I have been granted since I moved. America is really amazing but I just cannot wait to move back to Nigeria and live in Lagos.