I moved to America in 2017 and that was when everything changed. I would not say that I regret that decision but it was not the best decision I made either. Now that I am in America, I have realized that America is not really my happy place. To be honest, I only like America because of the countless number of opportunities available to teenagers.
So what was life like before moving to America?
Life before America was amazing. I was very very happy and I was very social. I had a lot of friends and I was somewhat popular in school. I was a newscaster for the school’s radio. I went for debate competitions. I went for church competitions. I was very much out there. I was even chosen to be on a bridal train a couple of times. In short, life was very easy for me then. I was doing so well with school and life in general. I had so much fun with my friends and family.
On Sundays, after church, my family and I went out a lot. Most times, we went to different restaurants to eat and take pictures. Sometimes, we looked for new amusement parks and we went there. Our favorite place to go was Olusegun Obasanjo Presidential Library(OOPL) which had several parts to it, like a zoo, a library, different eatries, a swimming pool and many more. We stayed there till it was late and we just had so much fun together.
Also, holidays were super amazing. During Christian holidays, we went out to visit all my parents’ friends. We also went to the houses of other members of our family. However, during Muslim holidays, we hosted parties at our house because my father is Muslim. We hired caterers to help with the cooking because we usually had a large number of people come to our house then. Some of my friends come to our house and it was really really exciting.
Life after moving to America
After I moved, everything became so different. My social life went downwards. I no longer had a lot of friends and I was no longer interested in making friends. I lost my confidence and I became so shy. America is so different from Nigeria and I was so confused about a lot of things. I was very unfamiliar with the food and “culture” in America.
When I started school in America, I went through a lot with the teachers, the students and the way of teaching. I started in 8th grade and it was not really a good experience for me because there were just two other black people in my grade. There was no one to relate to and there was no one to befriend because I was just so different from the rest of them. The way I looked was different. The way I spoke was different. The way I dressed was so different too. In short, everything about me was so different from the other kids in school. I could not mingle with the other kids because of our differences and I lost my confidence because I thought that the kids in America were so much better than me regarding their looks and style.
How is life now after living in America for three years?
Life in America now is pretty great, even though sometimes I still wish that I had just stayed back in Nigeria. I am not very very happy yet but I am getting there. My confidence is back now and I go for school competitions and school outings. I am even a member of the student government in my school. I have also gotten a hang of the American accent and I can speak it quite fluently now(*inserts laugh emoji). I am still not interested in making friends because over the years that I have been in America, I have learned that it is okay to be alone so that you can look after your inner peace and it is okay to just have only one or two friends.
I am really thankful to God for bringing me to America because a lot of people want to be in America but they just cannot afford it. I am really thankful to my parents too for being nice people and for being good parents. Lastly, I am also thankful to America for all the opportunities that I have been granted since I moved. America is really amazing but I just cannot wait to move back to Nigeria and live in Lagos.